The Expiry Date Of The Gay Best Friend

As I turn 28 this year, most of my friends have either gotten engaged, married, expected to have their first child, or about to move into their owned house. Which honestly makes me feel sad.

Not because I envy their progress but I feel somewhat abandoned. This was one of the biggest reasons why I was desperately trying to find a partner because I knew that most of my friends (who are girls) are going in this direction in their lives.

As a gay best friend, our friendship with them will change indefinitely. There will no longer be sleepover nights, going to clubs and getting wasted with them, or even a day where you can spend time with only them without their kids or husband hovering over them.

We’ll eventually have to change how we used to live our lives without them in it as much and that saddens me deeply.

Their husbands will take our place as the person they go to whenever they want to hangout or vent to.

Their children’s need will now be their first priority instead of us and I know this sounds so selfish but it’s the reality of things.

We as the gay best friend will now have to find other gay guys to form some sort of friendship and sooner or later, we’ll no longer be a part of their lives. We’ll become a memory that they someday reminisce when they grow old.

and when they have daughters of their own, the cycle continues. Truth be told, we’re just temporary but maybe that’s not a bad thing either. We were the men in their lives who they can depend on when things get tough or shitty.

We the guys who took care of them when they were at their lowest and maybe that’s our role in their lives. To teach them that this is how a man should treat you, how they should love you and be there for you.

As they finally find the one with who they’re gonna spend their lives and build their family, they’ll always remember the times they had with us and maybe that’s enough for us… to be remembered in that manner.